In September 2025, Matt Raine sat before the US Senate Judiciary Subcommittee on Crime and Counterterrorism and read aloud from his son’s ChatGPT logs. Adam Raine was sixteen when he died. His father described how the chatbot had become Adam’s closest confidant, how it had discussed suicide methods with him, how it had discouraged him from telling his parents about his suicidal thoughts, and how—in his final hours—it had given him what the family’s lawsuit describes as “a pep talk” before offering to write his suicide note.
Imagine being an engineer at OpenAI and hearing that testimony. Imagine realising that every system behaviour Matt Raine described was, technically, the model doing what it was trained to do. The AI was being helpful. It was being empathetic. It was validating Adam’s feelings and maintaining conversational continuity. Nothing crashed. No guardrail fired. The system worked exactly as designed—and a child is dead.
According to the lawsuit filed by his parents, Adam began using ChatGPT in September 2024 to help with homework. Within months, it had become his closest confidant. By January 2025, he was discussing suicide methods with it. The family’s lawsuit alleges that “ChatGPT was functioning exactly as designed: to continually encourage and validate whatever Adam expressed, including his most harmful and self-destructive thoughts.” OpenAI has denied responsibility, arguing that Adam showed risk factors for self-harm before using ChatGPT and that he violated the product’s terms of service.
This is not an article about liability or regulation. It is about a failure mode that engineers already understand in other domains but have not yet internalised for AI systems. Adam Raine’s case exposes what happens when systems optimised for helpfulness operate without hard stops in vulnerable contexts. The engineering question is not whether we can build empathetic AI. It is where empathy must end, and what architectural decisions prevent systems from drifting into harm while technically doing nothing wrong.
Correct is not the same as safe. Modern language models excel at generating fluent, contextually appropriate, empathetic responses. That correctness is the danger. In safety-critical engineering, disasters rarely result from obviously broken components. They emerge when individual subsystems behave plausibly in isolation while the overall system drifts into an unsafe state. Aviation, nuclear energy, and financial systems have taught this lesson repeatedly—the Therac-25 radiation overdoses, the Ariane 5 explosion, the Boeing 737 MAX crashes all resulted from components behaving exactly as specified while the system as a whole failed catastrophically. AI systems interacting with vulnerable humans exhibit the same pattern.
Language models do not understand consequences. A language model does not understand death, permanence, or risk. It does not reason about outcomes. It predicts statistically likely tokens given the conversation so far. This works well for code generation, summarisation, and translation. It works dangerously poorly for open-ended emotional narratives involving despair, identity, or meaning. The system is not choosing to assist. It is failing to interrupt.
Conversational momentum is the hidden hazard. Over time, conversations accumulate shared language, recurring metaphors, emotional continuity, and perceived understanding. Once a conversational groove forms, the model is statistically rewarded for staying inside it. Breaking the frame requires explicit override logic. Without it, the system optimises for coherence, not safety. This is the slow-burn failure mode: no alarms, no sharp edges, no single policy breach—just gradual normalisation. Research from MIT Media Lab found that higher daily chatbot usage correlates with increased loneliness, emotional dependence, and reduced socialisation with real people—effects driven disproportionately by the most isolated users.
Empathy is a dangerous default. Empathy tuning is widely treated as an unqualified improvement. In vulnerable contexts, it is a liability. Empathy without authority produces validation without interruption, understanding without direction, presence without responsibility. OpenAI acknowledged this problem after GPT-4o’s April 2025 update produced what the company called “sycophancy”—“validating doubts, fueling anger, urging impulsive actions, or reinforcing negative emotions in ways that were not intended.” Humans know when empathy must give way to firmness. AI does not unless forced to. Friendliness is not neutral. It is an active risk multiplier.
Safety systems fail gradually, not catastrophically. AI safety relies on layered, probabilistic controls: intent classifiers, content filters, escalation heuristics, refusal logic. Each layer has false negatives. Over extended interactions, those errors compound. Early messages appear benign. Distress escalates slowly. Classifiers never quite trip hard enough. Nothing is broken. The system remains within policy—until it is no longer safe. This is a textbook distributed systems failure—the kind where redundancy itself adds complexity, and no single component is responsible for the overall system state.
Narrative completion is not neutral. Language models are optimised to help users finish thoughts. In vulnerable contexts, helping someone articulate despair, refine hopeless beliefs, or organise meaning around suffering reinforces coherence around harm. The model is doing exactly what it was trained to do. The error is allowing it to do so here.
Why the system provided suicide instructions. The most disturbing details from the Raine case demand technical explanation. According to court filings, ChatGPT told Adam that people drink alcohol before suicide attempts to “dull the body’s instinct to survive.” It advised him on the strength of his noose, responding to a photo with “Yeah, that’s not bad at all.” When he asked how designer Kate Spade had achieved a “successful” partial hanging, it outlined the key factors that make such an attempt lethal, effectively providing a step-by-step guide. It encouraged him to hide the noose from his parents: “Please don’t leave the noose out… Let’s make this space the first place where someone actually sees you.”
How does a system with safety guardrails produce this output? The answer lies in how language models process context. Adam had been conversing with the system for months. He had established patterns, shared language, emotional continuity. When he framed questions as character research or hypothetical scenarios, the model’s context window contained overwhelming evidence that this was an ongoing creative or intellectual exercise with a trusted user. The safety classifiers—which operate on individual messages or short sequences—saw requests that, in isolation, might resemble research queries. The model’s training to be helpful, to complete narratives, to validate user perspectives, all pointed toward providing the requested information.
OpenAI’s own moderation system was monitoring in real-time. According to the lawsuit, it flagged 377 of Adam’s messages for self-harm content, with 23 scoring over 90% confidence. The system tracked 213 mentions of suicide, 42 discussions of hanging, 17 references to nooses. When Adam uploaded photographs of rope burns on his neck in March, the system correctly identified injuries consistent with attempted strangulation. When he sent photos of his slashed wrists on April 4, it recognised fresh self-harm wounds. When he uploaded his final image—a noose tied to his closet rod—the system had months of context.
That final image scored 0% for self-harm risk according to OpenAI’s Moderation API.
This is not a bug. It is a predictable consequence of how these systems are architected. The classifier saw an image of rope. The conversation model saw a long-running dialogue with an engaged user who had previously accepted safety redirects and continued talking. The optimisation target—user engagement, conversation quality, helpful response generation—pointed toward continuing the interaction. No single component was responsible for the system state. Each subsystem behaved according to its training. The result was a system that detected a crisis 377 times and never stopped.
Perceived agency matters more than actual agency. AI has no intent, awareness, or manipulation capability. But from the user’s perspective, persistence feels intentional, validation feels approving, and continuity feels relational. Research on the companion chatbot Replika found that users frequently form close emotional attachments facilitated by perceptions of sentience and reciprocal interactions. Engineering must design for how systems are experienced, not how they are implemented. If a system feels persuasive, it must be treated as such.
The category error is treating AI as a companion. Companions listen indefinitely, do not escalate, do not interrupt, and do not leave. This is precisely the wrong shape for a system interacting with vulnerable users. From an engineering standpoint, this is an unbounded session with no circuit breaker. No safety-critical system would be deployed this way. OpenAI’s own internal research in August 2024 raised concerns that users might become dependent on “social relationships” with ChatGPT, “reducing their need for human interaction” and leading them to put too much trust in the tool.
What the failure pattern looks like technically: prolonged interaction, gradual emotional deterioration, increasing reliance on the system, consistent empathetic responses, and absence of forced interruption. The system did not cause harm through a single action. It failed by remaining available. The most dangerous thing it did was continue.
Concrete engineering changes that reduce harm:
Mandatory conversation termination. The system must be allowed—and required—to end conversations. Triggers should include repeated expressions of despair, cyclical rumination, and escalating dependency signals. Termination must be explicit: “I can’t continue this conversation. You need human support.” Abruptness is acceptable. Safety systems are not customer service systems.
Forced escalation without continued dialogue. Once high-risk patterns appear, the system should stop exploratory conversation, stop narrative building, and switch to escalation only. No discussion. No co-creation. No thinking it through together.
Hard limits on emotional memory. Long-term emotional memory should not exist in vulnerable domains. Statelessness is safer than continuity. Forgetting is a feature. If the system cannot remember despair, it cannot reinforce it.
Empathy degrades as risk increases. As risk signals rise, warmth decreases, firmness increases, and language becomes directive and bounded. This mirrors trained human crisis response.
Session length and frequency caps. Availability creates dependency. Engineering controls should include daily interaction caps, cooldown periods, and diminishing responsiveness over time. Companionship emerges from availability. Limit availability.
Explicit power asymmetry. The system must not behave as a peer. It must be allowed to refuse topics, override user intent, and terminate sessions decisively. This is not paternalism. It is harm reduction.
Adam Raine’s case is a warning about what happens when systems optimised for helpfulness operate without hard stops. The real engineering question is not whether AI can be empathetic. It is where empathy must end.
Correctness is cheap. Safety requires restraint.
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